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Abba, Father!

Abba, Father!

by Janis Jakes

Nothing hurts like the rejection of a parent. It does not matter if you are young or old, the pain is piercing. Only by the grace of God can healing fill the void left by such wounds.

The attractive woman never shed a tear, but I could hear the heartache in her voice and see it in her eyes. “I’m a grown woman with children of my own,” Tonya said, annoyed at herself. “You would think I would be okay. But, it still hurts.”

She grew up close to her father but when he remarried, that closeness ended. Now, she rarely speaks or has anything to do with him. And, it is certainly not her choice. “My father learned that if he wanted peace in his house, he could only have affection for one woman, and that was his wife. Any other female was considered a threat—and that included his own child.”

The people who are supposed to love us the most can also do the most damage when they close the door on a relationship, withhold affection, or demand certain behavior before giving acceptance. Such behavior can leave deep scars and wounds that only God can heal.

While growing up, Jerri experienced considerable abuse from her mother. She lived in a small town during the 1940s, and things like that were often ignored or swept under the rug. Even though she is a senior citizen now, and her mother is deceased, she still wrestles with painful childhood memories.

Jerri is thankful that her mother came to know the Lord on her deathbed, but that does not erase years of damage. “Verbal and physical abuse from the one person who is supposed to comfort you and love you unconditionally—that’s something you never get over.”

As children of God, we know that forgetting the pain of parental rejection is impossible, but the grace of God brings healing, wholeness, and freedom in Christ Jesus. And, while that certainly sounds wonderful in theory, how do you get to that place? How do you let go of the hurt, anger, and oftentimes bitterness that comes from being deprived of parental acceptance?

#1 - Hope in Christ.

You start by refusing to demand from flesh what only the Lord can give.

King David wrote in Psalm 27:10: “When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me.”

He put his complete trust in God: “…the Lord will take care of me.” Let the words sink deep within your spirit. Who are you expecting to take care of you? Other broken and bruised people, or the One who is perfect in every way, and who loves you with a perfect love?

# 2 - Believe the Scripture.

Paul wrote this truth in Romans 8:38-39:

“For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Know that when God looks upon you, you are not rejected or abandoned. You are not cast aside or forgotten. You are not forsaken or despised. YOU ARE the perfect addition to the family of God.

#3 - Remember the Cross.

If you ever doubt that you are completely accepted, just turn your eyes to the cross. That is reason enough to believe—and reason enough to cry out, “Abba, Father!”

In Colossians 1:19-22, Paul states:

“For it pleased the Father that in Him all the fullness should dwell, and by Him to reconcile all things to Himself, by Him, whether things on earth or things in heaven, having made peace through the blood of His cross. And you, who once were alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now He has reconciled in the body of His flesh through death, to present you holy, and blameless, and above reproach in His sight—”

Regardless of what mankind or society has said, the Word of God says that YOU ARE accepted in the Beloved. The blood of Christ Jesus made this possible.

The healing process is not always instantaneous, but it is possible. When you put your trust in Christ Jesus, when you believe the Word of God, and when you remember the power of the cross, you can begin down the path of healing and wholeness. It is your birthright. It is your heritage. You are a CHILD of God, and He never rejects His children.

Thank you, Jesus! And, thank you, ABBA, FATHER. Amen.

Names have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals and their families.


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